Comfortable: to be in a state of physical or mental comfort; contented and undisturbed; at ease.
Complacent: feeling so satisfied with your own abilities or situation that you feel you do not need to try any harder.
I definitely struggle between these two, it’s a process of becoming so comfortable with a situation or a person that I become complacent. On the flip side, I hate complacency, I hate feeling as though somebody has become so ‘satisfied’ with me they no longer feel the need to make an effort, but annoyingly, I know I am prone to this. We all are! It’s so easy to become so comfortable with something or someone, especially when a routine is involved. I love routines in my life but then again, I think they’re my biggest enemy of progress. Think about it, once you’re so set in what you’re used to – your normality – what is the need for change?
I notice this happens with friendships, relationships, work and general stages of life. We become complacent and suddenly need a kick up the bum to refresh and restart. Think about your relationships, when was the last time you did something nice for your partner? Something out of the ordinary just to show you really still care. Go the extra mile for that person because they’re worth it! And your friends? Do you still make enough time for them or even check up on them regularly? Because you might be so caught up in other things you don’t even realise you haven’t seen your good friend for a while. They’re worth it! Has work started feeling really boring and repetitive lately? Try something new, or what about a new job altogether? Find a hobby, plan a holiday, meet up with an old friend!
We are not made to be stuck in boring routines and what is supposedly ‘normal’ but instead, we should be breaking barriers and going the extra mile for our loved ones and for ourselves! Don’t become so complacent you miss the opportunity for something new and exciting or you begin to think “my life is so boring” because it’s not. It all sounds cliché and you’re probably tired of hearing it but I’ve learnt that literally everything requires effort. Complacency is the bane of our lives.
I’ve noticed that going out of your comfort zone and doing things that may not necessarily be your norm is usually quite beneficial. It’s how we grow and learn what we like and what we don’t. For the first time in a while, I’m happy to be breaking barriers!
I hope this helps lovelies!